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Women are meant to be loved, not to be understood – Oscar Wilde
Being a woman can get difficult on women only as they have a tendency to compare themselves to other women and be like them. Some of us tend to not be satisfied with what traits they have – physical, economical, aesthetic and always want to be like another woman but themselves.
Who is a woman? Associating our definitions about a woman may be different but we should all agree that a woman, like a man, has fundamental human dignity that should not be dishonoured and is neither given or can be taken away. As per The World Youth Alliance Declaration on Women - “A woman is an architect of authentic peace from the most basic cell of society to the highest levels of policy and decision-making, constructing conditions in which persons are given the chance to live in accordance with their dignity.”
A woman according to me is the most well-thought and crafted entity in our society. A woman has always exhibited diversified qualities in the different roles that she plays in her life - as a mother, a sister, a spouse, a friend, a daughter and of course a source of inspiration. She is so much more than these defined roles that she plays.
Our lives are so influenced by women that we can't disagree with them and disregard their significance in our life. But yet, women stop loving themselves, from an early age. Throughout their lives, women are stated to put others first and to judge themselves based on what others think.
But ladies, you cannot ask people to love you or your work if you do not love it yourself. In fact, if you learn to love yourself, everyone else’s love will be far from being central.
A woman is like a prism that takes in light and turns it into a range of greater, fuller glory, so that those around her now see the rainbow that was confined in the beam. She constantly radiates cues of God’s faithfulness. She reads the black and white pages of the word of God and takes on the task of living them out in vivacious hues for her children, her neighbours, and the world to see.
Believe me, the complete society will benefit if women just start placing themselves first a little more. By doing this, you are not being anti-men or feminist. Women need to let go of emotions and off the past to not be a barricade to achieving their own goals.
Learn to love yourself in your work
Love their relationships
Learn to love your body
Love and foster their soul.
When you love yourself, you start to break periodic negative patterns and start to be a hero, not a victim.
As women were not allowed to take choices for themselves, women empowerment came in like a breath of fresh air. It made them conscious of their rights and how they must make their own place in society rather than depending on a man. It recognized the fact that things cannot simply work in someone’s favour because of their gender. Nevertheless, we still have a long way to go when we talk about the reasons why we need empowerment.
Today’s women are ambitious, aspiring, multi – talented, progressive and want to be self - reliant and share the responsibility of running the home along with their partner.
Talking about workplace scenarios, organizations that don’t realize the importance of women in the workplace are missing out on transformations. Besides doubling your talent pool, recruiting women into your organization may also upsurge your company’s financial performance.
Women are moving into jobs that used to be carried out by men. Even those women working in factories or sweatshops have more choices and individuality than if they remained at home.
A woman alone has power; collectively we can create an impact. Traditionally we have been taught to be competitive with one another, because there was such a shortage of jobs at the top. The truth is that raising each other up and channelizing the power of collaboration is truly how we’ll change the equation.
You don’t have to be aggressive or revolutionary to empower other women, but you do need to be proactive about it. We, as woman need to be there for each other.
Here are five things you can do right now to start empowering the women around you.
This is particularly important if you’re successful or holding a prominent position. You need to recognize that we look up to you and admire you. We put you on a platform and you seem to be unreachable, as though you were born successful. Of course, you weren’t. You have worked hard and paved a path to reach your destination where you are today. When they see that the road you travelled is very much like the one, they’re on, they’ll start accepting they have the power to achieve their goals.
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When you see discrimination or an unsatisfactory playing field, call it out. Don’t just point to it; describe why it’s unstable and the consequences it will have. Don’t leave the focus on the negative. Instead, offer a better alternative, whether it’s a woman capable of doing the job or a change to the system so it becomes more reasonable. Don’t worry about developing a reputation for rocking the boat. It is something to be proud of. Today most people want to be fair-minded, so you’ll be doing them a favour.
We need to work together to encourage ourselves. If you’re in a leadership role, look for women who would benefit from a forthcoming opportunity and endorse them. And you don’t have to be in a leadership role always to hear about new opportunities. If you know a female associate who would be perfect for the opportunity, tell her about it. Keep the communication networks open between you.
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We waver, we question our capabilities, and we let our lack of confidence hold us back. It’s much easier for you to spot the potential or talents in another woman than it is for her to see it in herself. Encourage women to put up their hands for new opportunities, to apply for raises, to ask for bigger assignments, to seek guidance. Hold a women’s hand when she wants courage, give her a push when she needs it, and keep reminding her of her unlimited capacities and abilities. There are a lot of people who find it easy to pull others down or call names. We need to be the people to help them climb their ladder success.
Look for women who are optimistic, encouraging, strong and determined to help other women prosper. Emotional strength is what you’ll need at some stage to help you keep standing up for yourself and other women. Build a strong network both personally and professionally. We need each other. Create your surrogate support group even if you feel your family supports you. Collaborate and share the opportunities.
We should be our own biggest fans. You don’t have to wait for someone to tell you, that you are beautiful, shout it to yourself as you look in the mirror, because our Creator made no fault by making you the way you are, and there is no one as beautiful as you. “You are not what others think you are. You are what God knows you are,” Shannon L. Alder from Goodreads.com said.
When women realize and understand their self-esteem and that they’re worthy of love, they reach greater self-appreciation of themselves and the life given to them. Through self-appreciation, women can support for their rights as women and dignity as human beings.
When a woman becomes her own best friend, life brings out a different purpose. We need to see our own beauty first. As stated by C. Joybell C., “You can be the most beautiful person in the world and everybody sees light and rainbows when they look at you, but if you yourself don’t know it, all of that doesn’t even matter. Every second that you spend on doubting your worth, every moment that you use to criticize yourself; is a second of your life wasted, is a moment of your life thrown away. It’s not like you have forever, so don’t waste any of your seconds, don’t throw even one of your moments away.” Debit negativity. Credit Memories of Lifetime!
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